Next to the bond between a parent and child, the bond between a teacher and child is one of the most important for a child’s development. Children with positive outlooks on life and learning are more likely to be successful. Here are four tips to help you actively work to build this bond in your classroom. Show
Be Considerate of the ChildOne of the most important things a teacher can do is show a child that you care. This involves being genuine in interactions, actively listening, and responding to the needs of the child. If a child is upset or frustrated, it is your responsibility to help him or her determine what the cause is, and provide strategies, if needed, to work through the situation. Listen, reflect on, and validate a child’s emotions to show him or her that their feelings are important to you and his or her well-being. Provide Clear Expectations and Give Choices when AppropriateTake time to let the children know what the expectations are in your classroom. Older children may be able to provide ideas for setting expectations. Clear expectations allow children to follow through on directions and make wise decisions. When appropriate allow children to make choices, this provides them a sense of control over the situation and builds self-confidence by allowing them to feel that you trust their decisions. Take Time to Connect with Each ChildTake time every day to connect with each child individually. Greeting a child warmly and talking in a pleasant, calm voice helps you develop a secure teacher, child relationships. It is also important to get to know each child and appreciate where he or she is at in their development, understanding, and interests. This will allow you to better tap into how to reach and motivate each individual child. Speak to Each Child on His or Her LevelWhen speaking to a child, kneel or lean down to get on his or her level. Eye contact is also incredibly important. Whether you’re communicating directions or asking the child a question, this body language demonstrates that you are engaged and listening. A positive teacher-child relationship has a tremendous impact on a young child’s ability to learn and grow. Take the time to foster trusting relationships, and you’ll find that it’s much easier to manage your classroom and create a positive learning environment.
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Before watching this video, read the text below. When instructed, watch the video from the beginning to end. A child’s social, emotional, cognitive, and academic development is strengthened when educators and families work together. When a child sees a positive relationship developing between educators and family, the child recognizes that the important people in his or her life are working together and trust each other, and he or she will do the same. This collaboration also provides a strong foundation for communication about children’s learning. To foster family involvement, interactions between educators and families should be positive, purposeful, reciprocal, and consistent.
In this video, you’ll see educators use various strategies to build strong relationships with families. As you watch, look for effective strategies used by the educators in the video and jot down answers to these viewing questions in your Learning Log.
Review Why is it important for you to build relationships with families?
What are some helpful ways to share information about what children are doing and learning?
Reflect Think about the learning environment at your own program as you answer these reflection questions in your Learning Log.
Relationship-building describes the process of establishing emotional connections with others, starting from birth, which are based on trust and intimacy. Through relationships, children discover who they are and learn to understand others. When young children experience people helping, understanding, and enjoying them, they approach the world with openness and enthusiasm, and they grow to be responsive and caring people. Babies are born with a drive to relate to and connect with others, and they continue to develop the social skills necessary to form strong, healthy relationships throughout their lives:
Below are some ideas for nurturing relationship-building skills in infants and toddlers. Allow for Unstructured, Uninterrupted Time With Your Child Each DayLet her be the leader in deciding what to play. Don’t multi-task during this special playtime—just be there with your child one-on-one. She will feel loved and special with your full attention. When you have to do turn to daily chores, you can stay connected with your toddler by talking with her or having her help with the activity, giving her “jobs” she can handle. With your baby, you can narrate what you’re doing and offer her interesting, related objects to keep her connected to you—like giving her a wooden spoon to play with while you’re cooking. Let Your Child Know You're Interested in His ActivitiesShow a sincere interest in your child—whatever he is doing. Your attention is what he desires and is thrilled to receive. You can show your interest by commenting on or describing what he is doing: “You are using so many beautiful colors to make that drawing.” Or, get involved by following his lead. If he is putting blocks in a container, see if he’ll take turns with you, or if you can build something together. This will also help him learn about the value and joy of back and forth play which is an important aspect of all successful relationships. Encourage Children to Express Their Feelings in Age-Appropriate WaysForming positive, healthy relationships depends on the ability to show feelings appropriately and to recognize the feelings of others. Teach children acceptable ways to vent anger, like drawing an angry picture, running in the yard, or tossing a pillow on the floor. Label your own feelings, “I am happy because you helped me clean up,” or, “I am sad that Grandma had to fly home.” It is important for children to know that you have feelings too, but that there are ways to cope with them so you can feel better. Respect Your Child's FeelingsThis teaches your child to trust her instincts. It can also help her work through powerful or difficult feelings and allow her to move on. Knowing you respect her feelings teaches your child empathy and respect for others, which are important elements in any relationship. Accepting her feelings, without minimizing them or making fun, also increases the chances that she will share more with you as she grows. Play Games that Explore FeelingsUse puppets to act out a young child’s typical frustrations or fears, like having to share toys with a playmate, adjusting to a new baby, or separating from loved ones. Make drawings or hats for different emotions, and talk about pictures in books that communicate feelings. Also, watch what your child “tells” you during his play—it can be a window into his inner thoughts and feelings. For example, if your child dresses up in mommy clothes and acts out leaving her teddy bear at the babysitter’s house, she may be wondering about separations. You can help her think through these big ideas and feelings by playing along and perhaps reminding her that, while Teddy misses his mama, he knows his mama always comes back. Provide Opportunities for Your Child to Develop Relationships With PeersChildren need practice in order to learn to share, take turns, resolve conflict, and feel the joy of friendship. Playing together gives children all of this—plus a chance for parents to connect with others adults, too! At this age, being present during play-dates is important as children often need help learning and practicing their new friendship skills. And it’s a good rule of thumb to keep playdates short for little ones—45 minutes-to-an-hour is about right for most toddlers. For older toddlers, you can use their playtime with peers to nurture relationship-building skills by:
Limit TV and Other "Screen Time"Television takes time away from hanging out together—and time away from children playing, solving problems, interacting, and actively learning about the world around them. When your child does watch, you can enhance the experience by talking with your child about the show—what she thought it was about, which characters she liked and disliked, how it made her feel. You can also act out the story as she understood it, use puppets to tell the story, or make up your own story together. Share on social media! |